Delaying Gratification

The Marshmallow Test was an experiment conducted by Walter Mischel that measured and tested delaying gratification. The ability to do so has been linked to success in life more so than IQ. …

When You Get Angry At Yourself, Who Exactly Are You Angry At?

If you ever gotten angry with yourself, for whatever reason, have you ever stopped to ask yourself who it is exactly you are angry at? I mean we all have only one self, or do we?

Who we…

The Art of Being Present

Presence is a state of attunement. It is a state of being connected. It is being connected to the self, to other people, and to the experience in the moment. …

Emotions and Feelings

Peanut butter and jelly weren't always a thing but many of us don't really associate one without the other. Tuna fish is pretty much the only fish we mix with mayo to eat and our concept of emotions and feelings follow suit, we bunch them together. It's…

Congruence

Congruence is a word few of us are familiar with and fewer of us use. But it is a powerful word. It describes a state we can achieve. One that is powerful, transcendent. When we are congruent we are aligned and when we are aligned we are at peace.

The Difference Between Can’t and Won’t

We love words. We crave the right words. We need to hear our significant others tell us they love us even if their behavior says otherwise. Words give us hope. Words empower us to dream. We think in images but we give meaning and…

Your Time Is Yours To Manage

There are more than a few good books on time. The Time Paradox by Philip Zimbardo, 168 Hours by Laura Vanderkam, The Time Trap by Alec Mackenzie and if you want it straight from a theoretical physicists' perspective, The Order of Time by Carlo…

Love Is a Behavior Before It’s a Feeling

An argument can be made that this holds true for all feelings, particularly the transcendent feelings. (These are the feelings we create in the absence of emotion.) …

Behavior Is Neither Good nor Bad, but Consonant or Dissonant

Saying it makes it so. I think therefore I am. Philosophical and morality injections into behavior have been going on since we have had a good enough grasp on language to create coherent thoughts. If so much of our realities…

We Don’t Know What We Don’t Know

Only by standing in the unknown can those things we don't know come to us. This is much easier than it sounds. To stand in uncertainty and the unknown is not a natural thing for us. …

Elliot Yi

Elliot is a personal development author. His latest book, "The Bitter & The Sweet: Benefits of a Balanced Perspective in Life, and How to Achieve It" out now.

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